So, I made a spreadsheet detailing the difference in household labour that I and my husband do.
When I showed it to him he was pissed off and (naturally) felt like I was attacking him. I told him to go through the spreadsheet and update it with things I'd missed.
He went through it with a fine toothed comb and added a few things, he also added a few things to my list that I'd forgotten and then he apologised.
Since then he has booked his own physio appointments and updated our shared calendar, he cooks supper on his days without complaint and without asking me what he should make, he even put the laundry away without complaining.
I think, having it all written down in black and white (and blue, and green, yellow and pink - I colour code a lot) gave him irrefutable evidence that I wasn't just whining and being lazy.
Sometimes having a fight and being a tad petty (making the spreadsheet to prove my point) works out for the best.
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