I washed the laundry for myself, him and our daughter and piled it on the bed to be folded and put away. I didn't have time to start folding so I left it and went to work. I had hoped that, being a grown adult with functioning brain cells that my husband would fold and put away the laundry.
I got home from work at midnight, fed the animals, entered our budget details for the day (I have to run a pretty tight ship budget wise as we're low income and have massive medical bills (I'm an insulin dependant diabetic and my glucose monitor which insurance refuses to cover costs $500/month) so at the end of the month we usually have about $0.12 to play around with.
Anyway, the clothes weren't on the bed so I assumed he'd put them away. In the morning I found the clothes in a heap on the closet floor. Apparently because I wasn't there to fold the clothes and sort them he was utterly incapable of doing so himself and his solution was to dump the clean clothes on the closet floor.
We had a fight about who does more work around the house. He works full time whereas I work part time (30 hours/week for me, 40/week for him). I sat down today at work and made a list of the all the chores that are done in our house.
I made a spreadsheet (I LOVE me some spreadsheets!) and assigned each chore to one of us (there was some overlap on some that we both do) and calculated the number of hours spent per week on these chores. One thing that bugged me was that I couldn't think of a way to capture the time I spend making doctor/dentist/eye appointments for myself, our daughter and my husband, the time I spend keeping track of his schedule and responsibilities, the time I spend keeping track of family (his and my) birthdays and events etc. All those organizational tasks that don't take much time at the time but that add up to a lot of time. I didn't realize just how much of a personal assistant I am to him until I wrote it all down.
Anyway, even without that time taken into account I spend 30.75 hours/week on household chores compared to his 5.25 hours/week.
- running a household involves a lot of tasks
- the division of labour in my household is bullshit and needs to be addressed
When he does perform household tasks (like cooking supper on nights when I work late) he bitches and whines about it or (like hanging clothes in the closet) does such a shit job (while whining and bitching about it) that I end up re-doing it myself and when he does cook dinner he leaves one hell of a mess for me to clean up, when he empties the dishwasher he often leaves 1/2 of the dishes still in there and he ALWAYS just leaves the dishes on the counter instead of putting them in the cupboard - guess who comes along behind him and puts the dishes in the cupboard. When he brushes his teeth and spits into the sink he doesn't rinse the spit down the drain, he leaves it stuck to the side of the sink for me to wipe up.
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